- November 19th, 2012
I know there are events happening, so I am not sure as to who of you will see this post, but if you do, I would be very happy if you have any advice or opinion or contact data (an organization to adress to) as to what I will speak about.
My friend, who is a lawyer, a very good woman and a mother of 4 children is in trouble and, more than that, is being falsely accused based on her religious beliefs - and I will tell more below.
To be more detailed: this woman has 3 common kids with her ex-husband. I know them for over 6 years now, and I teach their kids, who are very dear to me. During last years of their common life my friend's husband beated her, stiffled/suffocated her, didn't pay attention to kids and was constantly breaking her mailboxes and spying on her.
She has been very kind, meanwhile, believed in him as an artist for many years and sipported his good reputation everywhere and tried not to speak badly of him with their children, also tried to hide the fact she was being beaten, only her eldest son knew the whole situation, but the court is not interested in listening to him.
The artist, meanwhile, was giving interviews of his being a good father and husband, whichlately helped him greatly, while, in reality, he paid no attention to children and was being agressive.
WHen they divorced... The court is taking all their three kids common away from her because of the following:
- she has been visiting a Krishna consciece group for a while, which, locally, in the court, they decided to see as a proof of her being an insane member of a sect. I would like to point to the fact that Hinduism is the most ancient world religions and is official., nevertheless, many people in Russia are agressively Russian Orthodox and judge based on this (I do not judge them, I just give facts).
- She has given home to a child who suffers from autism, and the local court sees it as another sign of her being not normal, as she gives home to "dangerous" people. If you, like me., have seen the movie "Mozart and the whale", or met such people in life, you may know that these people actually work and live a normal life, at times, despite their disability. Locally, in Russia, it has been considered strange.
So, based on this, the court has decided to take the children away from her and give them to that person, now it it on a pause, and two of her kids stayed with her, and one with her husband.
Lately, the husband arrived to her place with some police or police-looking people, I don't know, crashed in and took the youngest 6-year old kid away (only one of their kids, as he said "who needs the daughter (9-year old girl), keep her, I don't need her"). He disappeared with him. We still do not know where that kid may be.
When the woman started driving around the city trying to figure out where her taken away child may be (potentially at the home of girlfriend of her ex-husband, as they both started to date other people with time),she drove next to the building where this woman lives so to talk wth her and try to convince her or ask where her kid is, when her ex-husband suddenly drove out (without the kid, who is still hidden and not with him), saw his ex-wife's car car and crashed into her. Then he quickly drove back, having hit three more cars on his way and drove away. Next, he went to police and said that this woman was attempting to kill him, crashing into him - this is a false accusation.But the police took it seriously... As he has many friends and has been spending last years gosspining about his wife being not normal (as she is interested in spirituality).
This man has many friends in our city, including in court, and rthese friends have more friends... And the woman is in a situation where everything is against her. She just always lived a humble life, working much and spending time with kids. NOw she may be put to prison just because she was driving around looking for her kid and because she attended a religious group for a while, and because she has given home to an autist child of her friend.
I will be trying to ask my friends who may give me an advise concerning European organizations, but also maybe you know some in your country, if this may be somehow handled, because the Russian court system is what it is, and she has nowhere to go in the city (and no one knows her, while everybody knows her husband because he's been a painter who spent all his time giving interviews about being a good husband and father)... This is a very very very good woman in a situation where she doesn't know what to do. She is trying to act fair, and the only way to act fair is to adress, fairly, international organizations, who may see above the bribery and "friendship" going on and just listen to her and her kids' opinion (while we still do not know where the junior one is being hidden).
Maybe there are organizations dealing with such situations that you may advise, or maybe you can think of friends who can give an advice to this. She is a mother of four and a very good person. SHe may have taken away her kids and go to prison for doing nothing wrong at all.
Please do not repost this, but just ask people if you can, because in the case of many reposts, this person may additionally accuse her of violating his reputation (we have been prevented of this when we wanted to fairly adress press).
Thank you if you read this and have ideas.